I haven't felt like writing lately. A close relative passed away last week and we buried her this week. I didn't feel like it was my place to write about it on facebook, since she was related to my husband, but it has been a week of mixed emotions and heartbreak.
Therefore, I wasn't really feeling like being snarky or funny. But life continues and kids are kids and they started school! Yes!!!!
Now don't get me wrong. I adore those 8 hours I get kid-free and quiet-house. Cleaning that stays clean. All good things in my book. But for some reason, this year doesn't feel quite as liberating. Maybe it is because of the death and funeral. I think, most likely, it is because my husband is actually home this week. He is usually driving all across the USA doing his work thing all week long and then makes appearances on weekends. And I have come to appreciate both the leaving and the returning.
If I traveled back in time and told my newlywed self or even my dating-seriously self that this is how my marriage would work, I would have said, "No way. I would never live in a weekend marriage." However, 17 years later, this is really quite pleasant. My husband is a really great guy. We talk every day and I keep him up on the minute to minute drama of quadruplets. And when he returns we are happy and relieved to see each other and it is a little celebration.
I have taken on tasks that, honestly, should have been mine from the start. I take out the garbage, pay the house payment and all the other bills, manage our bank account, and fix whatever things break while he is gone if I can. Those don't sound super tough, but it can pile up when you add in feeding and maintaining life for the rest of the household. And clean clothes.
Laundry is never-ending and the bottom of the laundry basket is a rare sight. The unicorn of laundry.
But I digress. Anyway, if any of you Russian readers have noticed the absence, then blame it on the death in the family. Have a great weekend.
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